As one challenge comes to an end a new one arrives!
Day #27 for March Slices, Day 2 for Conversations with Eileen and the world.
Yesterday I had that important conversation with my friend Sharon who like you, knows me, worts and all. Recently, Sharon lost one of her very close friends and in a few days she will be traveling to Mexico, to be with some of Diane’s other close friends as they find some closure. A well known photographer, Sharon’s poems and photos will be included in a tribute book to her.
As I think about it, you and Sharon have a lot in common. Friends before I had Tuvia, gave me years to establish friendships without the time restrictions sometimes placed on friendships outside that central relationship. We talked for hours on the phone, sat across from each other drinking coffee, even played hours of tennis in the heat of July and we were passionate about the same things.
With you Eileen, we talked family, politics, books, tech (when you let me), what we hoped for. With Sharon, our bond centered around our teaching at Pearl River High School and how we could merge art and writing and theater. On the same wave length, kids often called us by the other’s name. Now that we are both retired, our lives move in very different directions,but there is always time for a walk in a Rockland park with or without cameras in hand. Our passions intersect differently but Sharon both of you offered me a different mirror for reflection.
And now my question is how do I hold on to you?
I’m sitting in the darkness of Tuesday, up 4 hours too soon, but then I expired yesterday at 9:00, leaving Tuvia to read in the kitchen. But tonight was a surprise night to be together. Usually we are on our own on Monday nights but when our weekly schedule changes we are very flexible. Today we will be on our own. Tuvia will dine with his family before they leave on Spring Vacation and I’m off to visit your family as they invite friends to stop by and support them through the first days without you.
I’ll be sitting in your living room, at your dining room table, in your living room and everyone will be there, except you, of course. I wonder how often I will be back at that table, that’s what I’ve been thinking about. How do I keep up with the family I know from your eyes, that holds you still?
Good thing that I’ve made plans to take the ride up to my town, see my parents, spend time with your family and then spend the night with my brother and sister-in-law. A good opportunity to hear more about their upcoming trip to New Orleans for the Final 4 and share more details about their daughter’s wedding plans. A good life balance: rejoicing in the past and planning for the future.
It’s almost the end of this month of Slices and I’m going to miss the daily comments and the rich Slices to read. I couldn’t read Slices every day but some days I could read with wild abandon. And I have my writing mojo back.